No place at all

You are only free when you realise you belong no place – you belong every place – no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great. – Maya Angelou.

For 20 years, Brené Brown profoundly disagreed with this sentiment. Although she admired Angelou, she opposed this quote. Brown had long believed that in many ways she did not belong. “Not belonging” had formed one of the most “painful threads” of her life. As an academic and now research professor in the social work field, Brown has spent the best part of a lifetime pondering topics like vulnerability, shame and belonging. At the time she heard Angelou’s quote, Brown firmly rejected the idea that “belonging nowhere” meant freedom.

The price is high. The reward is great.

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You catch more flies with honey

Hello little blog!

**Wipes dust**

I’ve been busy finishing my Masters which has left me with little time to write. But I have made time to read which means I have a backlog of things I’ve learnt that I’m eager to write down.

First up, a classic. First published in 1937, and many more times since, this is possibly one of the earliest self-help books to reach pop culture status. It was recommended to me by a friend, whose husband said it had changed his life. It’s surprising it has taken me this long to embrace it. It is, of course, Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People.

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